Important Benefit from Sheikh Muhammad bin Saleh al ‘Uthaymeen Related to Marriage and Observing that which is Apparent

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

While explaining the hadeeth of Fatimah bint Qaes (may Allah be pleased with her); in which she approached the Prophet  صلى الله عليه و سلم and informed him that individuals have approached her for marriage, upon hearing the names of these individuals the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم  replied:

As for Abu Jahil, he does not remove the stick from his shoulder (he beats women), and as for Mu’awiyah, he is poor. Instead, marry Usamah. (Saheeh Muslim)

Sheikh ‘Uthaymeen commented (in summary):

If it were said: How can the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم   say: “As for Mu’awiyah, he is poor”, while he (the Prophet) doesn’t know? It’s possible he (Mu’awiyah) will become wealthy (in the future). And actually, this did take place. Mu’awiyah became a ruler; in fact he became one of the wealthiest rulers.

Thus, we say: From this hadeeth a vital benefit can be derived, which is: That which should be considered is what is apparent, not what will possibly occur in the future. Pay close attention to this principle. An individual is not commissioned to (consider) matters of the unseen, but rather, he is responsible for that which is in front of him.

Consequently, we know the answer for a commonly mentioned question (issue). This occurs when a man who is not practicing seeks to marry a practicing female. The female would like to marry him and thus she says: It’s possible that Allah will guide this man by way of me. This action (him changing) may or may not occur in the future. She does not know, but that which is presently apparent is that this individual is not practicing. If the female was to say: It is possible that Allah will guide him by way of me, we will respond: It is (also) possible that Allah will lead you astray by way of him! Both of these outcomes are possible, and you (the female) being led astray by way of the man is more likely, due to the fact that the authority and influence of the man over the woman is much greater than her authority and influence over him. Likewise, how many men put pressure on their wives to perform something that the husband wants, and due to his pressure, the female falls into something she herself dislikes. This is something which is known and proven. The most important benefit in this issue is that a person is responsible for that which is apparent, not that which will may or may not occur in the future.

Source: Fathul Thee Jalalee wal Ikram bi Sharh Bulough al Maram vol. 11, pg. 201

Translator’s note: May Allah have mercy upon our beloved Sheikh and father Sheikh Muhammad bin Saleh al ‘Uthaymeen. Indeed his statements and clarifications are filled with wisdom and sound understanding. The advice of the Sheikh can also be applied to the common day belief of many sisters (when approached for marriage by individuals not upon the methodology of the Salaf): I know he’s not Salafi, but ان شاء الله  he will come to the minhaj through my guidance and direction! Then after a few months, we find the sister attending the gatherings of the people of innovation and those supporting them! We have even witnessed sisters falling into major shirk, innovation, and defending the callers to hizbiyah due to being married to individuals not upon the methodology of the Salaf. Similarly is the statement of some females, when approached for marriage by an individual who has a proven reputation of mistreatment of women, you find some women saying: I will be the one to change him! Or: He will never treat me the way he treated others! These spurious statements and the likes are clear examples of how females place themselves in dreadful predicaments as it relates to marriages.

May Allah guide our women to that which is better, and may He keep us all firm upon the straight path.

Mustafa George DeBerry

Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia

17th of Dhil Hijjah | Oct. 22, 2013

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How does a person seek knowledge if they are distant from the scholars and people of knowledge?

How does a person seek knowledge if they are distant from the scholars and people of knowledge?

Answer: The Qur’aan is the origin of the legislation, and the legislation is general for mankind and Jinn until the Day of Judgment. Allah mentioned, “Say: This Qur’aan has been revealed to me to warn with it.” And Allah said, “Glory be to Allah, the One Who sent down the Qur’aan to His servant so that he could be a warner to mankind.” The third ayah is pertaining to the Jinn listening to the Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam), and then returning to their people and informing them that they’ve heard a book which was sent down after Moosa(alayhis salaam) guiding to the straight path. They informed their people to obey the caller to Allah. Therefore, every individual is responsible for learning the obligatory matters upon every individual Muslim. That which Allah has made obligatory from matters of Faith, Tawheed, Purification, Prayer, Fasting, Hajj and Umrah. If an individual is one upon whom it’s obligatory to pay Zakaat, he must know matters of Zakaat. This is fard ‘ayn (individual obligation upon every Muslim) of the Ummah. The Ummah is of two categories: The Ummah of propagation (Da’wah), and the Ummah of response. The Ummah of Da’wah consists of every individual Muslim, Kaafir (disbeliever) or Jinn. However, the Ummah of response is that which the Messenger (sallallaahu alahyi wa sallam) mentioned that his Ummah will divide into 73 sects. All of them will be in the Hellfire except the one who is upon that which He and His Companions were upon.

Q&A with Shaykh Abdullaah bin Abdul Rahman Al-Ghudayaan (rahimaauAllah)

Presented and Translated by Mustafa George DeBerry

January 10, 2010

Must Read:: THE PEOPLE ARE OF FOUR TYPES, AND THE DEEDS ARE SIX

THE PEOPLE ARE OF FOUR TYPES, AND THE DEEDS ARE SIX

(From ‘AS-SAHEEHAH’ (no. 2604) of Shaikh al-Albaanee -rahimahullaah):

From Khuraym ibn Faatik al-Asadee -radiyallaahu `anhu- that the Prophet صلى اللهُ عليه وسَلَّم said:

The people are four, and the deeds are six.

So the people are:

[i] one granted plenty in this world and in the Hereafter, and

[ii] one granted plenty in this world, poor in the Hereafter and,

[iii] one poor in this world, granted plenty in the Hereafter and,

[iv] one wretched in this world and in the Hereafter;

and the deeds are:

[i & ii] The two which are binding, and

[iii & iv] like for like, and

[v] ten times more, and

[vi] seven hundred times more:

[i & ii] So the two which are binding are:

Whoever dies as a Muslim, a Believer, not associating anything with Allaah – then Paradise is binding for him; and whoever dies as a Disbeliever – then the Fire is binding for him; and

[iii & iv] Whoever intends an evil deed but does not do it, and Allaah knows that his heart felt it and he desired it, then it is written as a good deed for him; and whoever intended an evil deed then it is not written against him; and whoever did it then it is written as one, and it is not multiplied for him, and

[v] whoever did a good deed – then ten times its like is written for him, and

[vi] whoever spends something in Allaah’s cause, then it is multiplied for him seven hundred times over. >>

Reported by Ahmad (4/345), Ibn Hibbaan (no.31), and Ibn Abee Shaybah in his ‘Musnad’ (2/38/2).

– Shaikh al-Albaanee declared its chain of narration to be ‘Saheeh’.

[Translated by Aboo Talhah Daawood ibn Ronald Burbank]rahimaullah

http://alitisaambissunnah.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/073-the-people-are-4-and-the-deeds-are-61.pdf