Q.The questioner is asking, what is your advice for a female who disobeys her husband when he calls her to the bed and she does not have any reason which prevents her from obeying him?
A.The shaykh (haafidhahullaah) said, he mentioned the hadeeth where the Prophet (Sallaahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said, any female whose husband calls her to the bed for relations and she disobeys him, then she is in the anger of Allaah. Allaah (azza wa jall) is angry with her until her husband is pleased with her. In another narration it is mentioned that the angels curse her. So the shaykh (haafidhahullaah) said the wife’s obedience to the husband is something major. It is a major affair, so if the female is not in a state that prevents her husband from approaching her then it is upon her to obey him and to respond and to allow him to perform that which Allaah (tabaarak ta wa ta’ala) has made permissible and if she does not do so then Allaah (azza wa jall) would be angry with her.
Shaykh Saalih Muhammad al-Luhaydaan (May Allaah preserve him) (Kitaab-ut-Tawheed Class, Q&A Session 06-10-2012, Riyadh)