Q.The individual is asking if I swear by my father’s life is this considered from major shirk?
A.The shaykh said no doubt it is considered from shirk. Swearing by the like of your parents it is considered from shirk. But if you swear by the like of your parents because you have a great, tremendous amount of reverence for them then this is major shirk. But if you do it out of kindness, not out of reverence rather kindness, and you are of the impression this is something to show respect to your parents then this is minor shirk. But this is not something you should be lackadaisical towards. This is not something you should be lackadaisical towards.
The shaykh said it’s possible that a person continues to commit minor shirk and their heart becomes accustomed to it, so they no longer distinguish between what is minor and what is major. They no longer distinguish between the truth and the falsehood. So that which a person should do, they should abstain from both the major and minor shirk. The individual should increase in the remembrance of Allaah so that no one has a place with Allaah in the individual’s heart. So no one has a place with Allaah in the individual’s heart. So he does not have reverence for anyone the way he does for Allaah azza wa ja’al.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Muhammad al-Luhaydaan (May Allaah preserve him) (Kitaab-ut-Tawheed Class 01.12.12) Riyadh.