Q.The individual is asking, the individual has approached to marry a sister and the family they refused the brother because of reasons not related to religion. What is your advice?
A.The shaykh mentioned if the father of the female has refused then she should be patient because disobedience to her father or disobedience to her mother could possibly lead to not being successful in the marriage. And it is obligatory and incumbent that the parents are obeyed except if they order with something which is disobedience or if they forbid you from performing something which is obligatory. So if the female is not capable of persuading her parents to allow the marriage then she should be patient. However, if the sister feels that her being patient is harming her in not being allowed to marry that individual, if it is harming her then she should approach the rulers and the individuals in authority so that they can possibly force the father to submit and accept the marriage.
Shaykh Saalih Muhammad al-Luhaydaan (May Allaah preserve him) (Kitaab-ut-Tawheed Class, Q&A Session 02.02.13 Riyadh).